What a loss… The actor who played Mr. Keating in one of my most favorite movies Dead Poet Society. The man who made us all smile, cry, laugh, dance, feel. He was an excellent actor, a funny fellow, a great man who touched many lives through his talent… And what’s really saddening about his demise is the fact that it was his choice, his decision…
Hearing about Robin Williams’ devastating death made me realize how fragile we all are, how susceptible we all are to depression. That, like him, we are prone to such feeling of loneliness and hopelessness. That at some point in our lives we suffered, or will suffer, these painful emotions. Too painful, that we would rather abandon life overall than continue dealing with the unbearable affliction. Because we all want to end it and for some, the unfortunate ones, there is only one thing left to do. There are no choices to choose from. There are no other ways to cope with it.
Being depressed is inevitable. Without any effort, you just find yourself unable to get out and enjoying the solitary confinement, embracing darkness and resenting light as if you’re a vampire or something that would get burned by it. You are trapped inside your own thoughts and there is no way out. You are sad and nothing makes any sense. It is hard to believe that a man like him, a funny man who makes people happy, a good man with family and friends who love and adore him, was actually suffering from depression. I hope he finds his peace at last…
Thinking about it now, I just want to acknowledge some of the things that might have saved the depressed in me, and continually saving it, from that one final unthinkable way of ending the struggle. Those life-preserving things that kept me, and still keeping me, on my ground fixed and steady. I call them life savers.
My Journal. You are like a best friend who listens and knows almost everything about me. Whenever I write something on your pages, it lightens the burden, it clears my mind. You give me time and space to contemplate. And most of the time, after giving my left hand some exercise, I get out feeling a little relieved, a little enlightened, a little less confused, a little less sad. Confusions turn to realizations. Doubts become wisdom. It allows me to focus and deal with issues. And I always end up with new understandings that make things less complicated and intimidating.
My Support System (Basically, family and few friends). I guess it is of great importance to have someone or a few good people who are constantly present in your life. Like family and friends. Who you know no matter what happens will never leave you or give you away. Those few people close enough to you that their mere presence gives comfort and some stability within you. That, regardless of the distance, the physical one, you know, and they too, that you will be there for each other whenever the need arises.
Listening to Music. And yes, singing with it at the top of your lungs without a care in the world. 🙂 It’s kind of therapy for me, I think. And it really helps. A lot. Without it, I don’t know if I could make it. Life is a bore without music.
My Nephew’s Hug. I am a believer of the saying “Hugging is healthy”. I believe in the power of hugs. 🙂 And my daily dose of it comes from my affectionate nephew. He is such a generous child when it comes to showing his feelings and this aunt is much too willing to receive. I actually take advantage of it whenever I can. He is such a sweetheart and I love him so. He never fails to amaze me with his antics and when he smiles, oh it’s so infectious you have no choice but to smile with him.
Playing with My Nephews and Niece. Playing with them is like being a child again. Returning to that time of simple joys and true happiness. Just spending time being happy with no worries. Hakuna Matata as Timon, Pumbaa and Simba cheered. Being in the now without fearing tomorrow and regretting yesterday. I always cherish these happy moments I spent and will be spending with them.
Communicating and Connecting with Friends. A good conversation is always a great pick-me-up for me. It gives you opportunity to share some insights and in return, gain some. Reaching out to friends also reminds you that there are people who never left and decided to stay. And that is always a comforting thought.
Reading a Book. It is an excellent way of spending time without thinking too much about yourself and your predicament. Of being preoccupied without digging your own mess. Of learning and seeing things in a new and different perspective without too much complications. Of getting busy without self-incriminations. Plus learning is always a good thing.
Distractions From Your Daily Routine. Sometimes all we need is a detour, a different scenery, a breather. To take a break from the usual stuff. To take that turn you’d never taken before. To do something different from what you did yesterday, and the day before yesterday, and the day before that. It allows us to feel excitement, thrill and other adrenaline-related feelings. Letting us realize that we are still capable of feeling other emotions. Other than sadness, loneliness and hopelessness. Making us feel normal again…
Dreams and The Hopes That Someday Somehow They Will Come True. Looking beyond your reality is sometimes necessary to survive it. Sometimes you have to use your imagination to make things better. And hold on to that imaginings and make them come true.
Little inspirations. Little inspirations that mean so much such as kind words or random acts of kindness from total strangers. It doesn’t matter whether you are the giver or the one receiving them. That warm feeling is recognized and shared by the two parties involved. Even those pick-me-up quotes never fail to pick me up. 🙂
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