JavaScript must be enabled in order for you to see "WP Copy Data Protect" effect. However, it seems JavaScript is either disabled or not supported by your browser. To see full result of "WP Copy Data Protector", enable JavaScript by changing your browser options, then try again.

on my shelf ~ Tuesdays With Morrie

“… love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone.”

                                                                     – Mitch Albom’s Tuesdays With Morrie

Tuesdays with Morrie is a book about life. If there is a textbook written about living life, this must be it! A guide to probing life in a different perspective. A compass towards a new direction. It answers a lot of questions we rarely ask due to busyness. The pages are filled with life’s great lessons, with an old man’s wisdom and a young man’s questions.

This beautiful book shows the readers what really is important in life through the eyes of a dying man. Mitch Albom immortalized the endearing Morrie Schwartz through the personal and real accounts written in this book.

The story started when Mitch reunited with his old college professor Morrie Schwartz after seeing him on TV and learning about his condition. Dealing with ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis), he is literally dying. It was a slow death that gave him the opportunity to live while dying and die while living.

Every Tuesday, Mitch would visit Morrie in his study and they talked about life. The teacher gave his student one final class, all about the meaning of life. Here is the list of lessons covered:

About the World

“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”

“Love is the only rational act.”        -Levine

About Feeling Sorry For Yourself

“Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them, too…even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling.”

 “I don’t allow myself any more self-pity than that. A little each every morning, a few tears, and that’s all. ” 

About Regrets

“And I suppose tapes, like photographs and videos, are a desperate attempt to steal something from death’s suitcase.”

“The culture doesn’t encourage you to think about such things until you’re about to die. We’re so wrapped up with egotistical things: career, family, having enough money, meeting the mortgage, getting a new car, fixing the radiator when it breaks — we’re involved in trillions of little acts just to keep going. So we don’t get into the habit of standing back and looking at our lives and saying, Is this all? Is this all I want? Is something missing?

About Death

“Everyone knows they’re going to die but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently.”

“Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.”

About Family

“This is part of what a family is about, not just love, but letting others know there’s someone who is watching out for them. It’s what I missed so much when my mother died – what I call your ‘spiritual security’ – knowing that your family will be there watching out for you. Nothing else will give you that. Not money. Not fame. Not work.”

About Emotions

“Learn to detach.”

“… But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment’.”

“Turn on the faucet. Wash yourself with the emotion. It won’t hurt you. It will only help. If you let the fear inside, if you pull it on like a familiar shirt, then you can say to yourself, ‘All right, it’s just fear, I don’t have to let it control me. I see it for what it is’.”

About The Fear of Aging

“The truth is, when our mothers held us, rocked us, stroked our heads – none of us ever got enough of that. We all yearn in some way to return to those days when we were completely taken care of – unconditional love, unconditional attention. Most of us didn’t get enough…”

“It’s very simple. As you grow, you learn more. If you stayed at twenty-two, you’d always be as ignorant as you were at twenty-two. Aging is not just decay, you know. It’s growth…”

“How can I be envious of where you are – when I’ve been there myself?”

About Money

“Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness.”

“These were people so hungry for love that they were accepting substitutes. They were embracing material things and expecting a sort of hug back. But it never works. You can’t substitute material things for love or for gentleness or for tenderness or for a sense of comradeship.”

About How Love Goes On

“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”

“… love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone.”

About Marriage

“Love is so supremely important. As our great poet Auden said, ‘Love each other or perish’.”

About Our Culture

“People are only mean when they are threatened. And that’s what our culture does. That’s what our economy does. Even people who have jobs in our economy are threatened, because they worry about losing them. And when you’re threatened, you start looking out only for yourself. You start making money a god. It is all part of this culture.”

“The little things, I can obey. But the big things – how we think, what we value – those you must choose yourself. You can’t let anyone – or any society – determine those for you.”

“The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it.”

“Every society has its own problems. The way to do it, I think, isn’t to run away. You have to work at creating your own culture.”

“What’s wrong with being number 2?”

About Forgiveness

“Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others.”

“There is no point in keeping vengeance or stubbornness. These things I so regret in my life. Pride. Vanity. Why do we do the things we do?”

“It’s not just other people we need to forgive. We also need to forgive ourselves. For all the things we didn’t do. All the things we should have done. You can’t get stuck on the regrets of what should have happened.”

“Make peace… with yourself and everyone around you.”

Smile and cry reading this wonderful story. Be touched and be overwhelmed by the extraordinary friendship these two people share, the coach and the player. Be enlightened by Professor Morrie Schwartz’ final lesson.  A brilliant teacher to the last.

images from web

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

[+] Zaazu Emoticons